APPROVAL QUOTES II
quotations about approval
Humans share an innate drive to connect with others. We're evolutionarily wired to crave inclusion. Eons ago, this was linked with our survival; in prehistoric times, rejection triggered fear. If someone became isolated or was ousted from the group, his or her life would be at risk. Because the consequences of being rejected were so extreme, our brains and behavior adapted to avoid disapproval from others. In fact, research has shown that social rejection activates many of the same brain regions involved in physical pain, which helps explains why disapproval stings.
MELODY WILDING
"4 Steps to Stop Seeking Approval from Others", Psych Central, October 3, 2015
He's not a "pat on the back" type of guy and I'm am driven by the need for approval. He's a stingy dealer, and I'm a needy addict.
KERRI K. MORRIS
"Resolution Chronicles: the best of 2015", Chicago Now, January 1, 2016
To a teenager, it cannot be true love if her family approves of him.
EVAN ESAR
20,000 Quips & Quotes
Self-approval is acquired mainly from the approval of other people.
MARK TWAIN
Corn-Pone Opinions
Once we realise that the wish for love and approval is a universal motivator, we can begin to dance with the flow of love by helping others to meet that need through their connections with us. And as we help others to meet those needs by being with us, the positive flow of giving Love comes back to us.
PERRY WOOD
Secrets of the People Whisperer
I was enslaved by a need for approval that was the real reason I felt I was living in a prison.
CHARLIE BLOOM
"Commitment Can Set You Free", Huffington Post, November 2, 2015
The fallacy of approval is based on the idea that it's not just desirable but vital to get the approval of virtually every person. People who accept this idea seek approval from others, even when they have to sacrifice their own principles and happiness to do so.
RONALD B. ADLER & RUSSELL F. PROCTOR II
Looking Out, Looking In
We are forever looking outside ourselves, seeking approval and striving to impress others. But living to please others is a poor substitute for self-love, for no matter how family and friends may adore us, they can never satisfy our visceral need to love and honor ourselves.
SUSAN L. TAYLOR
Lessons in Living
As a servant desireth the approval of his master, and a son the approval of his father, so should we desire the approval of God and our own conscience.
ST. AMBROSE
attributed, Day's Collacon
A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.
VERNON HOWARD
attributed, Wisdom for the Soul: Five Milennia of Prescriptions for Spiritual Healing
The conformist is filled with the need for approval. He can never get enough. He runs from one person to another seeking compliments and endorsements for his behavior and actions. As a child, he turned to parents and teachers; when he started to work, to his boss and fellow workers; in marriage, he turned to his mate. He must always have someone around to pat him on the head and tell him he is doing a good job. This bolsters up his poor self-esteem.
ROBERT ANTHONY
The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence
The affects were subtle at first, a warm feeling when someone liked or shared a column I wrote or commented on a status. The support from friends near and far when we are dealing with a crisis is also a positive way I have experienced affirmation and approval on social media. But gradually, I discovered this need for approval that I just didn't "like" about myself. I started to recognize a nudging inside me. It's kind of like the way my dogs tap my hand, with their wet noses, when they want food or attention. This nudging was coming from a need for approval of my work and a validation of my opinions.
EILEEN BENTHAL
"The human craving for approval, played out in social media", Riverhead Local, November 16, 2014
I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.
JOHANNES KEPLER
attributed, The Radical Humanist, 1969
If I cared for human approval, I would have been dead long ago.
PAOLO BACIGALUPI
The Drowned Cities
The named it Ovation from the Latin ovis, a sheep.
PLUTARCH
attributed, The Concise Columbia Dictionary of Quotations
The fallacy of approval is irrational because it implies that others will respect and like you more if you go out of your way to please them. Often this simply isn't true. Would you respect people who have compromised important values just to gain acceptance? Are you likely to think highly of people who repeatedly deny their own needs as a means of buying approval?
RONALD B. ADLER & RUSSELL F. PROCTOR II
Looking Out, Looking In
A motto of the human race: Let me do as I like, and give me approval as well.
IDRIES SHAH
Reflections
In terms of approval, the Internet is a seductive place. Part of this is because the Internet makes approval feel more tangible. No one in real life can like or star or retweet something you say. The best they can do is laugh a little harder, smile a little bigger. Not so with the Internet. The approval you feel is instantly measured by how much a post is shared, liked, "favorited," or reposted. The danger of posting something online for me lies in the way I track its reception like a new iPhone about to be delivered to my doorstep: obsessively and compulsively. I want to feel the rush of approval.
SAMMY RHODES
This Is Awkward
Do not look for approval except for the consciousness of doing your best.
BERNARD BARUCH
attributed, Wisdom for the Soul: Five Milennia of Prescriptions for Spiritual Healing
The people who receive the most approval in life are the ones who care the least about it--so technically, if you want the approval of others, you need to stop caring about it.
WAYNE W. DYER
Your Ultimate Calling